Humans are not monogamist by
nature, perhaps it is in our emotional upbringing that brands us monogamist! Or
the legal status/ de jure acceptable condition!
It is complicated to find out why we follow this socially specific
behaviour in various nuances, ranging from hopeless romantics to heartless
Casanova. We cannot generalize human love life or emotional status. That is
primarily because emotions cannot be quantified. Thus, cannot assure their
existence. Nowadays we cannot claim sole mates are made in heaven. (Contemplate
solely the number of ‘on and of’ relationship status on
Facebook can justify that this statement.) We desire for success and survival
in daily and long-term basis of our personal existence and not that for the
Homo sapiens (or anyone else as a matter of fact!) our most important goal is
to ‘possess’ as much as we can! No matter whatever it is, it has to have a
materialistic value associated with it. For our very goal me have placed
emotional stability in the backseat and we are driving rash through the highway
to the mountain cliff of success and beyond…
Life is not the same, if you
are a swan, (that you probably are not!) swan mate for life they chose their
partner once and stay together. The ideal condition that we fantasize in movies
like ‘up’! ‘Together Forever’. They may be dispiritedly romantic! Or just lack
industrialized civilization may be some of the gross reasons for them to stick
together. Whatever the reason is it overwhelms me. This cute fact about the
swan adds in an exception only when one partner is dead or lost. However, some
cases of divorce have been reported lately, majorly due to nest and child
issues. Shocked?! I know, who thought divorce was a contagious malady!
Apparently, this forever
together status is not just limited to Swans. Black Vultures; do not appear as
beautiful as one would imagine an epitome of love to be. But, pragmatically
they too mate for life like swan. Once they have chosen a partner they are
truehearted towards their partner. In fact if a vulture is caught philandering,
they are attacked by other vultures in the society! They make sure that there
is no infidelity, however harshly but justified. Eagles too mate for life; they
seem boldly beautiful and strongly soothing! Hence need no accounting!
We cannot forget lovebirds
to be counted in this category. Best known for lovey-dovey, tender stroking and
mushy skoodilypooping! (Apologise for this awkward description!) They stick
with each other through thick and thin and go together like peas and carrots!
Many other join this forever together status that we cannot imagine in our
modern-day world!
People generally get
awestricken by emotions when one thinks about love life of the swan or others
in the same category. We tend to contemplate our love as minimal as a grain of
sand. We consider our relations beyond comparison with their. However, the fact
is they have their own reasons and their reason is not love! They mate for
‘life’ not love! Sorry to burst your bubble! Birds ‘together forever’ are not
as amorous as one may think. They simply consider the time needed to migrate,
establish territories, brooding and raising young birds. They
consider that the extra time and energy needed for attracting a mate would
reduce the reproductive time. Passing their progeny to the world and staying in
the chain of evolution for sustainable time is their prime goal! We know
nothing about their emotional attachments! And hell no! Swan does not cry to
death due to loss of spouse, it just gets muddled-fuddled!
So here comes my smoulder
“an open letter to the people I love!”
Dear
My love towards you is
beyond the clandestine undeciphered intentions! It is beyond the sustainability
of species and far-far beyond search for convenience and saving time. My love
towards you is because; I celebrate your existence in my life! You mean a lot
to my swell headedness and my existence.
Lot of love!
Karnika